I have been thinking about children lately but not for the reason that you might think. My thoughts are on why people have children if they don't really want to or know how to love them.
My thoughts started with this article about a teenager and his lover who abused and killed HER son. She was even involved in letting it happen because she didn't want to lose this lover and thought that he would "grow out" of the abuse of her son.
This got me thinking about some people I know. I have met several people, who are from other countries, that have been sent away to study because they had some learning disabilities and it would save the family any embarrasment. These children, many of who are now adults, have little contact with their families and never go back home. Some live very lonely existences and I am sure that they have received very little in the way of basic human love. It makes me wonder if perhaps part of the disability is due to the fact that these people have never received something so basic as a hug or emotional support from their families.
Now, before any of you say that it must be cultural because they are from another country, I want to say that this happens everywhere in the world. I read a couple of stories recently about teenagers that have been kept in cages for years devoid of love or that have been locked under the stairs for all of their childhood. And no, this is not a reference to Harry Potter. This happened in America. I am sure that it happens all over the world.
My question is "Why do people have children if they are not capable of loving them?" "Why aren't many people better parents?"
I become livid when I see adults pushing their children around in strollers and those same parents are puffing away on a cigarette. They are, in effect, handing their children a death sentence. That child has no choice but to breathe all of that crap in. And it will effect that child throughout their life.
My point is that no matter what the level of abuse, be it locking children up or smoking, that abuse will undoubtedly affect that young person for their entire life. Anyone can have a baby but not everyone can be a loving and responsible parent.
My answer to this problem is a bit extreme, in that I think that abusive parents should be stripped of their "right" to be a parent and to allow those children to flourish in an environment that is more loving and healthy. Or we could just sterilize those abusive people to ensure that they cannot ruin a life other than their own. This might offend some but sometimes I think humans need a slap in the face to address things.
Finally, I want to say this. Give your children a hug once in a while because the hug you give, you get back tenfold because that being loves you.
My thoughts started with this article about a teenager and his lover who abused and killed HER son. She was even involved in letting it happen because she didn't want to lose this lover and thought that he would "grow out" of the abuse of her son.
This got me thinking about some people I know. I have met several people, who are from other countries, that have been sent away to study because they had some learning disabilities and it would save the family any embarrasment. These children, many of who are now adults, have little contact with their families and never go back home. Some live very lonely existences and I am sure that they have received very little in the way of basic human love. It makes me wonder if perhaps part of the disability is due to the fact that these people have never received something so basic as a hug or emotional support from their families.
Now, before any of you say that it must be cultural because they are from another country, I want to say that this happens everywhere in the world. I read a couple of stories recently about teenagers that have been kept in cages for years devoid of love or that have been locked under the stairs for all of their childhood. And no, this is not a reference to Harry Potter. This happened in America. I am sure that it happens all over the world.
My question is "Why do people have children if they are not capable of loving them?" "Why aren't many people better parents?"
I become livid when I see adults pushing their children around in strollers and those same parents are puffing away on a cigarette. They are, in effect, handing their children a death sentence. That child has no choice but to breathe all of that crap in. And it will effect that child throughout their life.
My point is that no matter what the level of abuse, be it locking children up or smoking, that abuse will undoubtedly affect that young person for their entire life. Anyone can have a baby but not everyone can be a loving and responsible parent.
My answer to this problem is a bit extreme, in that I think that abusive parents should be stripped of their "right" to be a parent and to allow those children to flourish in an environment that is more loving and healthy. Or we could just sterilize those abusive people to ensure that they cannot ruin a life other than their own. This might offend some but sometimes I think humans need a slap in the face to address things.
Finally, I want to say this. Give your children a hug once in a while because the hug you give, you get back tenfold because that being loves you.
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